The Case for Compassion, Not Judgement

By Varkha Chulani I am writing this from the city where Kate Spade unfortunately ended her life. In a matter of a few days, two celebrities had taken their life into their own hands, and decided that they wanted no more if it. While their families grieved, these acts became discussion points for complete strangers […]

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Faith, Reason and the Mindset of a Follower

By Varkha Chulani ‘Faith is what I die for, dogma is what I kill for’ is the saying. And we saw much of that unfolding in the aftermath of the verdict against Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh. All faith is dogma. And faith is nothing but belief unfounded on facts. Epistemology, a branch of philosophy, studies the […]

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Ask the Experts: A Case for Emotionality

By Varkha Chulani In the recent past I have seen too many clients getting into trouble due to self-control! Yes, sounds a bit odd, because mankind’s main problem seems quite contrarian. Decadence and intemperance being the bane for many, with self-indulgence and instant gratification playing a significant role in the decay of health. Not to […]

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Ask the Experts: How to Cope with Break-ups, Divorce (Hindi)

ब्रेकअप और आगे की राह: एक मनोवैज्ञानिक का नजरिया ऐसा कहा जाता है कि मृत्यु के बाद दूसरा सबसे बड़ा तनाव का कारण अलग होना या तलाक होता है। मगर ऐसा ही हो ये जरूरी नहीं है यदि हम ब्रेकअप को अलग नजरिए से देख सकते हैं- जैसे इसे अगर हम सामाजिक तरीके से, समझदारी […]

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Breaking up and Moving On: A Psychologist’s Perspective

By Varkha Chulani It is said that the second most common stressor after death is separation and/or divorce. But it needn’t be so if we can view our breakups with a different lens – stoically, sensibly, realistically and even philosophically. Because our attitudes towards the termination of our relationship will go a long way in […]

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Ask the Experts: Is Pseudoscience Setting You Back?

By Varkha Chulani Science is the ability to deal with facts, rather than what someone says about people, situations or things. Yes I know this is a rather simplistic way of defining science but from a perspective of emotional wellness, it by and large suffices. And pray why do I wish to talk about science […]

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Ask the Experts: Is Therapy for Everyone?

By Varkha Chulani First of all let’s break the myth that only mentally ill people need therapy. First of all let’s break the myth that only mentally ill people need therapy.  I’d love to illustrate this with an example of a gymnasium. If you notice, a gym is often made up of people who are […]

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Racing to the Brink: Mental Health and You

By Varkha Chulani “What is this life if, full of care,  We have no time to stand and stare.” W.H. Davies’ poignant words from his poem Leisure, exactly defines Mumbai-ites today. Look around and see. The rush. The mad race. The urgency. The chase. It appears we are vying with each other for who will […]

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Ask The Experts: Understanding Anxiety Disorders

By Varkha Chulani All anxiety is unhealthy.  When you are concerned about how you are going to do in an exam, at work, with people, etc you are in the ‘healthy’ or as lay people would say ‘normal’ range. For example, most of us get butterflies in our stomach before making a presentation, when our […]

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